Stuck in a Rut?

As a new mom, all I keep hearing from "my handlers" (husband, midwife, health visitor, etc.) is that I need to make friends with other moms. Now, I am going to be honest with you...sitting in a room full of crying babies and trying to talk to other moms does not rate high on my list. Also, making friends with people just because they have children doesn't rate high either. But, I am learning...

I am learning that I don't have to only hang out with people just like me or those I thoroughly enjoy. I need to keep an open mind about people. Honestly, I don't think I surround myself with people who are just like me, but I do surround myself with those that I thoroughly if you are one of those people, know that I enjoy you!

But, things have changed. I moved to a new place. Never worked up here to make friends. Did get involved with church though. But, I have still learned...I need to broaden my horizons. I need to give people a chance when they want to hang out, even if they aren't someone I would normally surround myself with. But...

I don't think I will have to do this for a while still! (No stretching and growing yet) Since Connor has been born, our home has been full of visitors. And in less than two weeks, I will be heading to the states for six weeks. But, after I return from that visit, I will return with a clear head (learning not to judge a book by its cover), streets hopefully not covered in snow (thus allowing me to safely leave my house) and will be ready to make some new friends...well, acquaintances at least. It takes a lot before I will call someone a friend...

Oh, and without further ado, an email I received for new moms about how to make other "mom friends":
  • Smile, make eye contact, ask how old their baby is, and how they are finding things.
  • Keep an open mind.
  • Join groups, text and call people and go out for coffee even if you don't know them that well.
  • Get out there! Speak to people. Make the effort - especially when you don't feel like it. If people ask you for coffee, GO!
  • Get out of the house every day, and try and see your new friends every week.
  • Be open and kind to everyone you meet, a fantastic friendship can development from a few pleasantries exchanged at the weighing in clinic.

1 comment:

  1. I can see you exchanging pleasantries at a weigh in - LOL

    mom friends...hmmm I don't know they give so much advise :)

    love you!


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