Squashing My Joy

Anyone who has ever been engaged, gotten married, bought a house, had a baby...will know what I am talking about. There seems to be a syndrome with people. Whenever anything really great is going on in your life, they feel they need to come along and suck the life out of you. They constantly give their opinion (no matter HOW MUCH you resist), tell you horror stories and in general try to steal away your joy. Then, when you call them on it, they bat their eyes at you and say something along the lines of,

"I was just trying to be helpful."

"I was just trying to help you be prepared."

"Even though it happened to Susie's half-sister's, neighbor's, best friend, doesn't mean it will happen to you."

Well, I have something to say to all you joy squashes out there...


Believe it or not, I don't want to hear your horror stories of your child almost dieing at birth, of ruptured uteri and more. Yes, I want some of you to be real with me (and you know who you are), but why does every single stinking person in the world feel the need to share their horror stories with me?!? I don't freaking get it and I don't freaking like it. Thankfully I have a sane mother that is totally my cheerleader and not a joy squasher. Thankfully I also have some good friends that are the same way. Otherwise, I think I might go insane!

Oh, and you joy squashes out there, you totally DON'T get that you do this...that is the BEST part. You are so simple minded and conceded that you would never realize that life isn't all about you and maybe, just maybe, you should keep your comments to yourself!


  1. Jessica, other peoples stories and opinons of your pregnancy are the worst part of pregnancy. I am sorry that you are experiencing this. I continue to pray for a perfect labor and delievery. You are an amazing woman, mother, wife and friend!

  2. It's so true that people love to do this for all the milestones in life. When RJ and I were getting married I had so many people tell me "how hard marriage is" I finally broke down to my mom asking her: Why am I doing this if 2 out of every 3 people love to tell me how difficult it is?!" Thankfully, I also have a sane mother who warmed me of the difficult aspects of marriage, but mostly encouraged me in the JOY. And, like marriage, the JOYS of motherhood SO outweigh any of the difficulties.

    Only 14 more days. I am bursting with excitement for you. If only you didn't live an ocean away I would have Landon over for a playdate asap.

  3. Sister, give me names and addresses and I wil gladly take care of this for you!

  4. I still have your prayer requests on my computer from 4 years ago...still praying :) love you!


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